Goal Setting- An Accurate Science to Achievement

Boredom is defined as "feeling weary because one is unoccupied or lacks interest in one's current activity." Everyone is bound to have felt this at some point in their life, if even for a few minutes when the motivation machine just isn't churning. But what about in your daily life or your occupation? Do you ever find yourself seemingly spinning your wheels? One day seemingly an identical spawn of another? I wonder how many thousands, if not millions of people feel this way on a day-to-day basis. I'm certain you have witnessed it. I'm also certain when you read the previous sentence a particular person popped into your head.  They are probably someone who drones through everyday as if their biggest battle in life is to push the time-clock forward to quitting time & always puts in just enough effort to avoid scrutinization from their superiors.  Typical analysis would label these persons lazy or slothful. But what causes those who may have extraordinary capabilities to become so inept?

Consider this statement Lou Holtz took from a book given to him by his wife at a most dismal point in his life: "If you're bored with life - you don't get up every morning with a burning desire to do things - you don't have enough goals."

At the time Lou Holtz read this, he was unemployed, newly married, and about to have their first child. The writer instructed that "To be accurate in goal setting you need to take a pencil & paper & write down all the goals you wish to achieve." Lou got out a pencil & paper, and started writing down all the things he wished to do. He wanted to go the White House for dinner. He wanted to be on the "Tonight Show". He wanted to see the pope & go to the various continents. He wanted to win the National Championship, be the Head Coach at Notre Dame, and be Coach of the Year. He wanted to hit a hole-in-one, jump out of an airplane, land on an aircraft carrier, go on a submarine. The more he wrote, the more excited he got. When he finally finished, he had compiled a list of 108 goals he wished to achieve in life. Throughout his life he has accomplished almost all of the goals listed above. He went on to coach at Notre Dame, win a National Title, be Coach of the Year, visit the White House, appear on the "Tonight Show." Setting goals always allows us to have something to work toward. The absence of goals gives way for boredom & a sedentary lifestyle to set in.

Goals for each individual are always going to have differences. For some, it may to be to raise a productive & upstanding children, get a job promotion, or scale a treacherous mountain. It is almost certain we won't accomplish every goal we set out to accomplish. However, if those goals remain unattained we will always have something that drives us & gives us something to work toward. They also provide a framework for how to approach our daily lives, with vigor, with intensity, with FIRE. I encourage everyone to take a little time to write our a list of goals that you wish to achieve. One day you will be able to look back & admire not what you have NOT done, but all that you HAVE accomplished...

Here is my crack at setting my life-long goals. I reserve the right to add more goals!!!!

My Life-long Goals:

1. I want to make a positive impact on every life I touch.
2. I want to win a State Championship.
3. I want to coach a Player of the Year. (Check. Ryan Schadler - 2013 4A Prep2Prep POY)
4. I want to coach at the college level.
5. I want to get married. (Check. July 20th, 2013.)
6. I want to be invited to a player's wedding.
7. I want to visit the White House.
8. I want to be a head football coach at a high school within 5 years of my college graduation. (Check. I set that goal when I was 18. Happened at 23.)
9. I want to be an Athletic Director. (Check. I set that goal when I was 21. Happened at 23.)
10. I want to lead a life pleasing to my Lord & Savior. (In progress. Needs work)
11. I want to visit Boston.
12. I want to go to a warm beach. (Check. Honeymoon to Jamaica, 2013)
13. I want to write a book.
14. I want to be a school administrator.
15. I want to coach a Division 1 football player.
16. I want to go on an Alaskan Cruise.
17. I want run at least a half-marathon.
18. I want to win Coach of the Year.
19. I want to have children.
20. I want to live in a state other than Kansas at some point in my lifetime.
21. I want to coach at my old high school. (Check. 2008-2012)
22. I want to win a district championship within the next 2 years.
23. I want to win a playoff game within the next 3 years.
24. I want to receive a teaching award.
25. I want to be on ESPN.
26. I want to run my own business.
27. I want to meet the President. (whoever it may be at that time)
28. I want to go the a Super Bowl game.
29. I want to go to a National Championship football game.
30. I want to be in a tv commercial.
31. I want to speak at a coaches clinic.
32. I want to go to Europe.
33. I want to fly on a plane. (Check. Honeymoon to Jamaica, 2013)
34. I want to ride on a train.
35. I want to train a state power lifter.
36. I want to make a music video.
37. I want to learn to play the guitar.
38. I want to go to a NCAA basketball tournament game.
39. I want to shoot a round of golf under par.
40. I want to coach an undefeated regular season. (Close this year! 8-1)
41. I want to coach a (school, state, conference, national) record setting player. (Check. 3 of them so far.)
42. I want to donate $1,000 to a scholarship fund.
43. I want to win a League Championship. (Check. 2013 Undefeated CKL-South Champions)
44. I want to save an animal from a pet shelter.
45. I want to go to an OU-Texas football game.
46. I want to coach an Academic-All State, Conference, or American Player.
47. I want to visit the Walk of Fame.
48. I want to visit the Grand Ole Opry.
49. I want to coach at Oklahoma.
50. I want to be a Secret Santa to a needy child.
51. I want to coach with my brother!

52. I want to ride a Sea-doo (Spelling?)

53. I want to own a brand new truck.

54. I want to ride in a car going over 150 mph.

The Dreamer vs. The Visionary: Part 2 of 2

THE VISIONARY

Light floods his blurred vision. As the scene clears, he's making his way down a smoky tunnel. The constant chatter of "click-clack" accompanies his footsteps. He adjusts the Under Armour armband tattooed with his favorite Biblical verse. The lights, only dimmed by the tinted visor shielding him like a Gladiator before taking to the arena. The fans. The roars of the hoards chanting his name. He's on the big stage, and the stage is set.

This is the moment he's been waiting for, his shot at endless fame, at GLORY. He took the unbeaten path to get here. The narrow road so few have the courage to tread. He's in the moment...HIS moment. His name bellows over the loud-speaker, as he trots onto the field.  He finds himself immersed in everything he's ever wanted. Flashes of agony, defeat, and tears flood his memory. Things haven't always been this glorious. There have been countless failures & shortcomings, preparing him for this moment. "I'm here now. That's all that matters."

He came to put on a show, and he hasn't disappointed. The crowd springs to their feet with every dazzling play he makes. He's putting on a clinic picking this defense apart. Tight windows pierced with impeccable timing from hours of after practice routes with his receivers. Crazy blitzes, line stunts...He can't be phased. No matter what the opposing team throws at him, he answers without indecision. He's seen it all in the lonesome 6 a.m. film sessions. He hurls passes as if from a cannon, forged in that musty, dungeon of a weight room.  After every throw, defenders launch themselves into his body, but he takes body shots better than Rocky. Abs of steel cut under a single, mid-night light after all others have exited the building. Like a cat chased by a turtle, he can't be caught. He blows by defenders leaving a flash. A dip & a dash, the scouts always said he just wasn't that fast. Those pro-agilities & sprint drill have paid off at last. 


The crowd to a grows to a frenzy. Time falls into slow motion, the climax is near.  His heart thunders with every beat. His breath collects into a crystallized plume in the chilled air, as he buckles his chin strap. It has all come down to this. There is no panic. Leaders aren't born, their trust from teammates is earned by their unwavering work ethic. This moment feels eerily familiar, but this story has a fairy-tale ending. He takes his drop, the pocket collapses. Arms aimlessly grasping & fingers tugging, but he escapes. Blow after blow, he fights forward with an Herculean type power, dragging opponents along the way. I guess dragging that weighted sled in 100 degree summer heat has paid its dues. Nothing can hold him back this time.  Only one defender stands between him & everlasting glory. He leaps. Extending the football toward the pylon, stretching for every inch....The last second slips from the clock, the buzzer sounds.....(WHACK).....

 BEEP....BEEP....BEEP....BEEP....Light floods his penthouse suite. He can still feel the pain from that last shot he took. Mother Winter waits outside this morning. The roars from the crowd still resound in his head. He pulls back the covers as he stretches to turn off his alarm. He admires the front page of the daily sports section at the foot of his bed. A portrait of him hoisting the championship trophy tells the story of victory. It was him this time. He had envisioned that moment since he was old enough to walk. Things finally went his way. He exorcised his demons. Bad luck?...there is no luck. He earned every bit of his triumph. His vision had become a reality, no longer to be hid in the shadows. As he folds his legs over the side of the bed, he slides his feet into his sneakers. There will be no off day today. As he makes his way to the training facility, the Dreamer exclaims: "Man...let's go get us another one..."


You see, DREAMERS skip to the good part, and fail to possess the fortitude & commitment to make those dreams into a reality. VISIONARIES have a plan in place that shows them how to get where they want to be, and sacrifice whatever is necessary to get there. A dream is like a trip without a road map. Never dream what is possible. Envision the road to your destination BEYOND your wildest dreams...

The Dreamer vs. The Visionary: Part 1

THE DREAMER

Light floods his blurred vision. As the scene clears, he's making his way down a smoky tunnel. The constant chatter of "click-clack" accompanies his footsteps. He adjusts the Under Armour armband tattooed with his favorite Biblical verse. The lights, only dimmed by the tinted visor shielding him like a Gladiator before taking to the arena. The fans. The roars of the hoards chanting his name. He's on the big stage, and the stage is set.

This is the moment he's been waiting for, his shot at endless fame, at GLORY. How he got here doesn't matter. He's in the moment...HIS moment. His name bellows over the loud-speaker, as he trots onto the field.  He finds himself immersed in everything he's ever wanted. He can't exactly remember how he got here, but he's not troubled. "I'm here now. That's all that matters. I've been here countless times."

He came to put on a show, and he hasn't disappointed. The crowd springs to their feet with every dazzling play he makes. He's putting on a clinic picking this defense apart. Tight windows, crazy blitzes, line stunts...He can't be phased. No matter what the opposing team throws at him, he answers without indecision & hurls passes as if from a cannon. After every throw, defenders launch themselves into his body, but he takes body shots better than Rocky. Like a cat chased by a turtle, he can't be caught. He blows by defenders leaving a flash. A dip & a dash, big play after big play, the crowd to a grows to a frenzy.

Time falls into slow motion, the climax is near.  His heart thunders with every beat. His breath collects into a crystallized plume in the chilled air, as he buckles his chin strap. It has all come down to this. There is no panic. He was born for this. This moment feels eerily familiar. He takes his drop, the pocket collapses. Arms aimlessly grasping & fingers tugging, but he escapes. Blow after blow, he fights forward with an Herculean type power, dragging opponents along the way. Only one defender stands between him & everlasting glory. He leaps. Extending the football toward the pylon, stretching for every inch....The last second slips from the clock, the buzzer sounds.....(WHACK).....

 BEEP....BEEP....BEEP....BEEP....Light floods his dingy, one-room apartment. He can still see his breath. Mother Winter must have gotten the best of his space heater. The only roar resounds from his replica helmet alarm clock. He pulls back the covers as he stretches for the snooze button. He admires the poster of his favorite athlete hoisting the championship trophy. It could have been him. He had dreamed of that moment since he was old enough to walk. Things just never went his way. He always caught the bad break. Bad luck followed him step for step. If only he had been as fortunate as his idol, it would have been different. His dream would have become a reality, not a frequently visited vacation when darkness fell. As he folds his legs over the side of the bed, he slides his feet into his tattered slippers. There will be no click-clack this morning. As he wanders to the coffee pot the Dreamer mutters: "Man...I always wake up just before the best part..."

TO BE CONTINUED....

Changing a Culture

There are many things in life I feel are absolutes. Those that try to deny that fact are living in a world of oblivion. I believe in a Creator. I believe in the absolutes of right and wrong. For every reaction, there is an equal & opposite reaction. However, I don't believe that anyone in this world is born a loser, or a failure. Circumstances & events in our lives form who we are, whether they be positive or negative. Unsuccessful programs, business, & people are a product of the attitudes within & happenings that mold them. Losing is a disease that slowly corrodes a healthy being. Thus creates a negative outlook in which positive thinking & attitudes are forced into submission, developing a culture of repeated failure. Losing may be a constant reality, but it is never irreversible. Reversing that culture, however, proves to be a daunting task. How is this overcome? How do we turn the tide? I want to tell you the first thing that must be done is removing the cancer & diminishing the poison of negative thinking. Winning must grow upon the seed of a positive vision. Whether on a team or in a personal setting, we must rid ourselves of negativity. This includes negative thoughts, negative outlooks, & even negative people. Never reside in the notion that what somebody believes you are destined to be is a certainty. You are capable of great things.

Throughout the mid to late '90's, Southeast High School had one of the most embarrassing football programs in the SEK area. Until the arrival of a head coach that instilled in his players the belief that they were capable of greatness. Bryan Burdette took over as head football coach in 2002, my sophomore year. After going 2-7 in his first campaign, we met the following May to discuss the future of our football program. One statement I will never in my life will forget was simple, but yet resounding: "We will not go 2-7 again. We are not going to put ourselves through that anymore." He meant it & we believed him. A simple seed of positive thinking drowned out all of the negative past. The following two seasons filled with hard work & grueling training, we posted records of 6-5 & 8-4. They included the school's first playoff victory in any sport & a berth in the state quarterfinal game, two points short of playing in the sub-state finals. All because  negative thought processes were not allowed to intermingle with our destiny. They were weeded out. In order to achieve success, we must surround ourselves with great people. People are the most influential piece in any organization. Not money, not resources, not talent. Sure those things help, but they do not dictate your ability to obtain success.

Beyond planting a positive seed, you must hold a vision for how you will get to the top, and a plan in which to enact your vision. Visions are great, but without an active formula they stand as figments of our imagination, only dreams. That formula must include great effort & sacrifice. Examine the most successful person you admire. They all have had to sacrifice something in order to have achieved their greatness. Things you enjoy doing may not be for the betterment of the common goal. Always ask yourself: "Will this help me get to where I want to be? Will this help me attain what I desire most in this world?" In the end you only get one shot. Don't let something you strongly desire slip your grasp because you aren't willing to sacrifice the things necessary that would allow you accomplish what you set out to do.

Your foundation has been laid. You're now a positive, sacrificial being surrounded by those who have a common goal. The stage is set before you. All that is left is to DO, but "Do" is such a basic word. There are many ways to "Do" something. You can "Do" it halfway. The task can be "Doable". The most important thing is that you "Do" it the RIGHT way & "Do" it with great effort. There are bound to be speed bumps, cynical outsiders pulling you down, & unforeseen trials that seem to get in the way. However, if you set your goals high enough, the obstacles in front of you can never keep you from holding your eyes upon them. Hold your gaze on your vision.

As I survey our future of our young football team & analyze where our young men are at in their journey, I'm amazed to see their faith in what they can accomplish. Their belief in themselves & each other, where negativity & a culture of losing have become a yearly afterthought, to achieve great things is astounding. They have not been suppressed by their recent shortcomings. Daily, I witness them push themselves harder & give greater effort beyond anything even the most successful team in school history ever did.  A coach could ask for no greater gift.

It will be important for us as coaches to give them the tools necessary not only to change the dynamics of what our program has become, but to continually push them to pursue new heights & never stray the course when uncertainty & storms arise. We must force them to understand, they only have one shot at greatness. One shot to turn the tide. One shot to, together, topple the wall holding them back. At the foot of an unscalable mountain, you chose the hard road, the icy path, & you did not stumble. You did not falter from the deepest valley all the way to the highest peak. And that there is no sweeter taste of satisfaction than knowing you accomplished the impossible. You changed it ALL...

He Just WINS...

Mike Ditka said it best "People who hate Tim Tebow are those that hate all that's good in this world." Tim Tebow embodies all that is wonderful about the human race. In my lifetime, I have never witnessed a more genuine human being with his exposure to fame. His ability to handle criticism is a unparalleled. He believes in himself. He always credits those around him, but most importantly understands that he would be have no ability to do what he does without his Lord and Savior. Some people seem to have a major problem with his antics, but their destruction of his character and beliefs are based upon nothing. It has nothing to grasp.

I'm not talking about those who have a problem with Tebow's quarterback qualities, his throwing motion, or his "inability to make throws at the NFL level." Anyone who knows the game of football would agree that his technique leaves much to be desired. However, I wonder how anyone can negatively comment on his character, and about how he goes about his daily life.  Is it their fear of their inability to live up to the standards he sets?  Tebow is the most highly debated figure of his generation. Therefore, receives a great deal of criticism, even about his faith.  Jake Plummer, a former NFL & Bronco quarterback, stated "I think that when he accepts the fact that we know that he loves Jesus Christ, then I think I'll like him a little better. I don't hate him because of that, I just would rather not have to hear that every single time he takes a good snap or makes a good handoff." Any person would have the right to fire back, but not Tim Tebow. He gracefully responded with the greatest comeback possible: "If you're married, and you have a wife, and you really love your wife, is it good enough to only say to your wife 'I love her' the day you get married? Or should you tell her every single day when you wake up and every opportunity?" His response not only renders me speechless, but is done in such a charismatic & loving manner. 


To any young athlete, Tim Tebow embodies every positive quality a parent or coach searches for in a role model. His doubters only motivate him. His naysayers only fuel his fire to prove everyone wrong. Throughout his life, people have told him he couldn't play at the highest level and win championships. After every success, he quickly reverts the attention and the glory to his coaches, his teammates, and to his Lord. He was criticized after being chosen the first round of the NFL draft. His coaches & management downplayed his abilities publicly. Before the first game of the season, he was listed as the 3rd string quarterback on the depth chart. After winning his first 4 of 5 games, analysts said that he couldn't lead his team to the playoffs. Even before tonight's game, it was said he was one play away from being benched. In 7 of 8 victories this season, he has led a game winning drive. His ability to perform in clutch situations is unfathomable.  His faith in his teammates, in Christ & in himself are unshakable. That faith is returned now by his teammates, his countless fans, and even his closest doubters, his coaches & organization. He has changed an entire culture. He has warmed the hearts of a nation. He makes us want to believe in something good, to believe in the impossible. People are drawn to him. If he uses that for the glory of Christ and goodness in general, I pity those who want to try to tear him down.

Tebow won a state championship in high school. They doubted. He won two national titles & a Heisman trophy for the Florida Gators. Still they said he couldn't do it. He can't be a successful starter in the National Football League. He now sits two games away from Super Bowl XVI. People have doubted his purity. People have doubted his true character. Whether the Broncos win or even get to the Super Bowl, he has proven two things. You can live a pure, genuine, & holy lifestyle in the face of fame & fortune. And you can always do the impossible despite the odds, despite what other think you are limited in doing. Tim Tebow wins games. Tim Tebow is winning in life. The man just WINS...

Brick by Brick

The most complex of systems are centered around the most basic units of composition.  For each structure or body of being, it is different. To the human body, its' vast complexity at the core is comprised of the simple molecule.  The only human structure detectable from outer space, the Great Wall of China, is made up of a delicate mixture of organic compounds hardened into the blocks & repeated countless times. Laws provide guidelines for humans to abide by & prosper in a society. Basic components true to their designed origination, a foundation. A foundation is fundamentally the most important figure in constructing anything built to last.

A house built upon sand will surely falter when storms arise, washing it away.  Conversely, a house built upon solid rock can withstand the toughest of circumstances & disasters. Thus, this translates to every facet of everyday life. To our own self, we must have principles that guide us in carrying out a lifestyle with meaning & fulfillment. Those who hold no principle wander aimlessly in a life that bears no direction. This remains true for businesses, families, teams, & organizations alike. Whenever problems or situations arise without precedent or procedure, a tailspin may tear down their very being, spiraling out of control leaving nothing but rabble & a notion of what once was. Southern Methodist University in the early 1980's was considered one of the premier college football teams in America.  However, the very reason they stood as a powerhouse program was based on faulty & dishonest practice. The NCAA uncovered one of the most scandalous existences to date in sports history. SMU had been illegally paying the best athletes in the country to come play for their university.  From 1980-84 SMU won 8+ games in 3 of 4 seasons, with and 11-0-1 record in 1982, but in 1986 the NCAA imposed the only "Death Penalty" on SMU's football program. The Mustangs were forced to cancel their 1986 football team, and had to rebuild their football program from scratch beginning in 1988.  They have not fully recovered to this day. Something that could have been avoided, if there foundation had been built on solid principle.

Lou Holtz stated that with a firm foundation & remaining true to principle, no matter the tribulation, you will never fall very far. There is a solid floor to which you will safely land & can begin to rebuild. I fear that in the past our football program & athletics in general, at Southeast High School, have fallen short of possible achievement because the foundation had nothing to hold firm in. Roots had been planted, but were not given the proper nutrients & attention needed to sustain long-term success. Thorns not trimmed, choking out positive growth implemented by a few. Soft soil giving a false sense security, and support. The rains came, and the house folded as the proverb suggested. If we, as a program, wish to sustain success those in position must take heed & act quickly. We must embed ourselves in rich, nourishing soil provided by our community & supporters. We must rid ourselves of those that are choking us from within, and entangle ourselves with positive & resourceful relationships.  Our foundation must be laid brick by brick with a formula unbreakable by harsh trials. This house must not be built upon quick fixes, and cheap principle that will crackle when thunders bellow. It must be solid. It must withstand anything thrown against its' walls. Each brick must hold its' own weight, and lean on others in times in which the force seems impossible to resist or turn back. We will rise, though it may be one brick at a time.  Take solace in knowing that the time you invest on doing it the right way will prove to pay immeasurable dividends. Do the right thing. Do the best you can. Alway treat others the way you wish to be treated.

It holds true to our daily lives.  No matter what life throws at us, if we have a strong foundation & remain true to our principles, we will always stand tall even in the most uncertain of times...

My New Years Resolution: Holding Out My Hands

Throughout my lifetime, I've been extremely fortunate to have been brought up under the tutelage of some of the most respected people in this area. My Father- Whom I've never heard a foul word spoken of. A man with hard hand & a warm heart. Jerry Jacquinet- My grade school basketball coach & PE teacher who is probably the most beloved man in the history of USD 247. Bryan Burdette- My head football coach in high school & my inspiration to become a coach myself who believed in me at the lowest points in my life. Ben Proctor- My high school basketball coach, and current Principal/boss. A man of great character. A man to model after. As I examine what has made these men such great leaders, friends, husbands, fathers, and coaches, one attribute has existed in every instance: Their ability to serve others.

Service is something I have struggled with throughout my lifetime. At times, I'm very selfish. Time has always been very important to me. I have a set schedule in my head of how my day should progress. Anything that derails that schedule is a nuisance. However, I seem to find multiple minutes throughout my day that vanish without something meaningful to fulfill them.  Minutes, even maybe very few minutes, that could be truly do good for someone other than myself. My first reaction is to quickly put the blame on my generation.  Everything about my generation is self-serving. "How can I please myself today?" Or my most hated saying of all-time "From now on, I'ma do me." I can't blame it on my generation. I have come to embrace one of Ben Proctor's favorite quotes: "CHOOSE your attitude." It is a daily decision that I must make for the betterment of the whole. A self-serving leader is a detriment to his organization, whatever that may be. It applies to all levels & all walks of life.

I feel that slowly, but surely I have made strides in this department, or at least I pray I have. However, I have never made a full commitment to service.  I must now realize that if my daily schedule in my head is thrown off a few minutes, it's not the end of the world. Wal-Mart is open 24 hours a day, so is my gym, and so is my bed. Sure, we still have to fulfill our obligations & responsibilities, but we, as a society, & I must realize that there are two types of people in this world. There are those who push people down, and those who pull people up.  I want to bring everyone along with me. I don't want to leave anyone behind because that person has value. And when I'm down, I want that person to reach back & pull me up alongside them. I have received the benefits of others' service countless times. It's time that I start giving back in 2012.

Starting in 2012, I want to be a person who holds out their hands not to receive, but to GIVE my hands to serve a purpose for others...